From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library
Did you know that accomplishing new things and failing at them can both contribute to your success? Every accomplished task is a learning opportunity and something to celebrate. Even the small wins give you confidence and motivation to move forward.
The same is true for those efforts that don’t go as well. Setbacks give you the opportunity to build resilience and learn new ways to approach a challenge. Try thinking of setbacks as necessary steps toward your ultimate goals.
Applying this concept through the following steps to help you turn failure into a new chance to succeed.
- Reframe: Try to see your setback from different angles. Consider asking friends or trusted colleagues to give you a fresh perspective on what they think went right and wrong. Listen closely, take notes and then combine these perspectives for a better picture of what happened and why. Try to respectfully take in every opinion and react thoughtfully instead of emotionally.
- Rethink: Once you have a new perspective on the situation, think about a new plan of action and write it down. Once you’ve started, keep at it and think of ways to tweak your new habit to up the intensity. You could walk farther, speed walk, or if you’re feeling really ambitious, jog.
- Listen: What are your body and brain telling you after each tweak? If a tweak really isn’t working, swap it for a tweak that does. For example, if jogging causes pain in your joints stop the jogging but don’t stop moving. Dial yourself back to a speed walk or a longer walk at a regular pace.
- Amplify: Once you get into the zone with your new routine, think about a new healthy change you can add, like using ankle weights or doing arm exercises with or without weights while you walk.
This important part about this habit-forming hack is to try new things until you find something that fits. Learning what works for you and what doesn’t is a useful skill that can help you adapt and more easily build healthy new habits.