From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library
Sometimes we may look outward for fulfillment. We may work to have "more" or look to others for validation. While it's great to seek growth, sometimes in our efforts to attain, we forget to pause and recognize the good already in our lives. Studies show that finding little ways to recognize the good in your life and incorporating that gratitude into your daily routine can help you find a fresh, happier perspective.
The Attitude of Gratitude
Although expressing gratitude isn't always easy for everyone, the effort can be worth the reward. Research tells us that adding gratitude to your attitude can improve relationships, productivity, health and even sleep. Creating simple daily gratitude habits like those below is a great way to reframe your perspective and enhance your resilience.
Remember the good times and the bad.
- Keep a gratitude journal. Use it to remind yourself of the people and things you are grateful for. Think of it like stopping to smell the flowers – and then jotting it down.
- Remember the bad. Make it a point to recall the not-so-good times in your life to help you highlight the great times. Don't dwell on the bad memories, but use them to balance your perspective.
Find the silver lining by asking the right questions:
- How will this moment make me stronger? This helps you identify the opportunity to grow resilience from a challenging life experience.
- How does this relate to my life goals? Taking a step back to see the big picture helps you gain perspective and may help you understand that some challenges aren't as daunting as they first appear.
Pro Tip: Take a look at the people in your life and learn what makes them special. What potential, ability and wisdom do I see in this person? Show them your new attitude of gratitude for the relationship by sharing what you discover. Then affirm and reinforce it.